“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.”
Without question, the roles of manhood are changing rapidly and dramatically in our society today. As women continue to make progress in all segments of society it changes the dynamic of the male roles in our culture. For most men this is extremely difficult to embrace. Too many of them are holding on to antiquated ideas about masculinity, which in turn causes confusion, anxiety, frustration and even anger.
There are countless men that are rejecting the positive changing roles for men and their refusal to embrace them leads to isolation, depression, failed relationships and a sense of being separate and disconnected from others.
But there are an increasing number of men who are beginning to embrace the positive changing roles for men. These men are creating a new paradigm of masculinity that encourages them to understand why the old way of being men no longer serves them.
In the old way, men were taught that they had two primary responsibilities, to provide and protect. But unfortunately, they were never taught how to connect. They were taught that their primary focus should be finding a good paying job, take care of their families, have lots of material possessions, enjoy drinking beer with friends and they would be considered “successful”! It is this way of thinking that has led to high divorce rates, addictions, male suicides and the senseless acts of violence we see on a daily basis.
In the new way, men learn that the key to their happiness will never be found by looking outside of themselves. They learn that their thoughts, feelings and beliefs are what truly shape their experience and they become committed to challenging their views about what it means to be a man. They learn to make relationships high priority in their lives and they recognize that relationships are actually the glue that holds their lives together. In this new way, they learn to become better husbands, better fathers and better friends and instead of just seeking jobs that pay a lot of money, they seek vocations that inspire them and give them the opportunity to express their creativity and share their passions. In doing so they find jobs that they love and are paid handsomely for the work they do.
This new way also provides men with the opportunity to develop a spiritual connection that nurtures his soul without being attached to any specific religious dogma or doctrine. It is an acknowledgement of something greater than himself that he is connected to and he commits to deepening his relationship with this power. In doing so he creates meaning and fulfillment in his life which encourages him to not only take care of himself but to also being committed to taking care of his community.
Lessons From A Gathering Of Men is a tool that any man can use if he is truly committed to living an extraordinary life. If you’re truly ready to join this new revolution of masculinity then join our community and pick up a copy today.
Coach Michael Taylor